How to Overcome Your Fear of Being Judged on Social Media

6 Strategies To Get Rid of Your Fear of Being Judged on Social Media

1. Get to know yourself better

One way that helped me to overcome my fear of being judged on social media was to know myself so well that no judgement from others could change the way I see myself.

This article can really help you if you don’t know where to start.

The idea is to be confident with who you are. That way, when you start to feel the fear being judged on social media, you can talk yourself out of it.

When you know yourself deeply, you start to gain more self-confidence. You trust your decisions a lot more.

You start realizing that it’s okay to be who you are, even if you feel like an impostor.

And you stop caring what people might think of you.

Related: 7 reasons why it’s important to know yourself

When it comes up to showing up on social media, if you’re to be perceived as a fraud, that’s probably because you don’t know how you’re really perceived.

One very quick way to know is to ask the closest people around you how they would describe you using just 3 words.

Honestly, do it right now. Just grab your phone and text 3 friends.

The results are very helpful. You’ll be surprised to see that people actually see you for who you really are, even if you don’t feel seen.

Related post: 24 Self-Discovery Questions For Women Who Feel Lost

2. Know your why and set goals

As someone who values authenticity, knowing your why will help you a lot.

You why is the purpose behind what you do. The bigger cause.

When you start feeling judged on social media, you must remember why you’re doing what you do.

On social media, it’s easy to get caught in the loop of comparison.

Imposter syndrome kicks in, and sometimes we feel inadequate or not good enough.

Then we question ourselves and wonder what the heck we’re doing.

Knowing your bigger purpose will help you in those specific moments.

I would suggest to write it down in your phone to quickly have access to it when you need it.

It also helps to break down your purpose into goals and an action plan.

Download my free Goal Setting Workbook to help you define your purpose, set achievable goals and turn them into an action plan to crush them!

No matter how much you feel judged on social media, at least you know that what you’re doing is part of a bigger plan.

Related post: How to Write Intentions to Achieve Your Goals

3. Set boundaries and time limits on your phone

The fear of being judged on social media gets worse if you fall into the rabbit hole of scrolling.

You start comparing yourself to other people. And questioning everything you do… then start to wonder what people will think of you.

Every time I start overthinking my presence on social media, that’s because I’ve spent too much time on a platform.

When I spend too much time on a platform, I start comparing myself to others.

I start having thoughts such as “I’m not good enough” or “what the heck am I doing”.

That stopped once I started to set boundaries with myself regarding my time spent on social media.

Here are some examples of boundaries that work for me:

• • In the morning, I don’t spend more than 10 minutes engaging on social media
  • I don’t open TikTok until 11am
  • I don’t check social media after 8pm

And these are the strategies I use to respect my boundaries:

• • setting a timer when I engage social media
  • Scheduling automatic down time on my phone after 8pm

4. Block some people

I know blocking people might sound harsh.

But honestly… why not?

If you fear being judged on social media by specific people, why not hiding your content from them?

I know you might think that’s “not strong” or that you should get over it and not need that.

But is telling yourself that really helping you?

‘Cause at this point, you have two options.

One, you hold back from expressing yourself because you’re scared of people judging you.

Or two, you have the courage to post.

The truth is, the real path to overcoming your fear is to take action.

But you can make it a little easier on yourself and block some people if you’d rather they not see your content.

Honestly… they’ll never know!

Then when you’ll be more comfortable you can always unblock them and… tada!

They never knew and everyone’s happy.

You’re welcome.

5. Work with a therapist

There’s a huge myth about therapy.

We often believe that therapy is only for people who are not well, who suffer from depression or who are mentally ill.

Let’s bust that myth right now.

You can be well and seek to improve your life.

You can be well and want to get better.

Therapy is for anyone who wants some support to reach a personal development goal or improve their mental wellbeing.

Therapy is just another tool to help you grow. Just like that self-help book that you’ve been reading.

That goal can be to overcome your fear of being judged on social media.

Therapy is an underrated tool to help you become a better version of yourself and crush your goals.

Therapy is one amongst the million tools I used to become the woman I am today.

I’m still a work in progress by the way, and always will be.

The good news is that you don’t have to waste your time trying to find a therapist you like.

(Or being on a waitlist for months, for that matter.)

I recently discovered about Calmerry and I was so stoked about it.

Calmerry is an online platform where you can find a licensed mental health professional to work with.

Not only will you pay a fraction of the price of an in person session, but you’ll get support at your convenience.

And here’s the best thing about it: you can choose between live video sessions or… text support!!!

Imagine: it’s like texting a friend with your problem but… that friend is actually qualified to help you. 🤯

For someone like me who travels a lot, that discovery was a blessing.

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6. Journal about how you feel

Labeling fear can help to reduce it by 50%.

Here are some journal prompts that can help you to understand and overcome the fear of being judged on social media:

• • Who am I afraid is going to judge me? Why?
  • Write down 3 reasons why you believe you’re scared of being judged on social media
  • If you had a magic wand and could post fearlessly without caring what people think, what would you post?
  • What kind of post would you like to share but would never dare to publish? Why?
  • What are you afraid to post?
  • What am I afraid people will think of me? Why does it matter?

If you don’t have a notebook you like yet, I recommend this one, I love it! 

Related post: Challenging Journal Prompts for Women Self-Growth

Conclusion: overcome your fear of being judged on social media

There’s one takeaway I want you to get from that post.

No matter what strategy you choose to try, the real “secret” (tbh there’s no secret, really) is to take action.

Face your fear and post.

Yes, you’re going to feel uncomfortable… but the more you do it, the more it’ll goes away.

And the more you wait, the more you push back the day where you’re really going to feel confident on social media.

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